Monday, July 23rd, 2007...8:50 am
Soon to be a dad again
With only a couple of weeks till I’m a dad again, at age 52, you’d think I might be terrified. And I’m sure that on some level I am. But there really hasn’t been a lot of time to think about it. We’ve been busy preparing for our son’s arrival, assuming the ultrasound tech and doctor are right about it being a boy. We’ve been through childbirth classes and done the last minute shopping. On the domestic front, we’ve got a very small house, so I’ve been trying to help make room for all the accouterments of parenthood. And we still haven’t agreed on a name, but we’re getting closer. To top it all off, I’ve recently embarked on a new job that has me working from home, so you can see that change is the rule here rather than the exception. Lisa’s got another week at work and then she’s going to pack it in until the baby arrives. Our small home is about to get quite crowded!
I hope I’m a much more involved father this time around. I know that many guys who become dads again via vasectomy reversal reportedly feel that they are better parents in round two. I’m sure I’ll be much more patient. I was concerned how my 20 year old daughter would react, but she seems quite pleased to have a brother on the way. Me, I’m trying to figure out how to pay for one in college and have the energy to chase one in diapers!
I’ve wondered what I’ll post about on My Vasectomy Reversal once we’re past the blessed event. Perhaps I’ll write about my second parenthood!
5 Comments
July 29th, 2007 at 5:43 pm
Congratulations on your impending bundle of boy!!!
My husband, Greg, had a vasectomy reversal on March 27 of this year. No news to report yet. But like you and Lisa, I was fairly disappointed when I didn’t get pregnant the first month we were clear to try. This will be our third cycle….so wish us luck.
Our story is not one of divorce and re-marriage. It is a long sad tale. Our oldest son died of melanoma, after a three year battle, 17 months ago. He was beautiful and amazing and simply irreplaceable. Life will never be the same without him. But as we tried to pick up the pieces to our life…we asked us what gave us the most joy. The short and most complicated answer is our children. So–now we hope and pray that this reversal will work and that we will one day hold another miracle in our hands.
July 29th, 2007 at 6:04 pm
Michelle –
I’m so sorry about the loss of your son. What a devastating thing to experience. I can’t imagine how painful that would be. Good luck with TTC. It sounds like you are terrific and committed parents. I hope get your BFP soon.
Lisa
July 31st, 2007 at 10:45 am
I drop in to your site once in awhile. You’ve done a great job with it. It is a real resource to the VR community. I was surprised to see how similar our experiences are. I am about a year ahead of you. I am 52 and our VR baby is just over one year old now. I have two grown children from a past life. They are both excited about having a new sibling.
I used to work at Los Alamos Lab- might have heard of them, eh- and have been on a leave of absence for over a year. My wife really likes her job and wanted to continue her career. I was tired of mine so I take care of the baby.
After my VR I figured out how to do my own semen analysis because I hated the hassle of taking in a sample. We also wanted to know more than a single sample every few months told us. Sheldon Marks of ICVR did my reversal. Before Amy, Stan was the andrologist at ICVR and Stan was a huge help in teaching me how to do my own analysis at home. I mentioned to Dr. Marks that I was thinking about starting a company to sell microscopes and products to allow couples to do their own semen analysis at home. He thought it was a great idea. Stan was so helpful with ideas to make it work easily and accurately for people. Anyway, I started Kokopelli Technologies and now I can take care of my son and run the business while my wife goes to work everyday. We are in the process of having a new office/warehouse built near our house. When I read your note about starting a new job working from home I was inspired to write.
I am sympathetic about finding the money for college and the energy for a baby. I don’t have the energy I used to but I do have more patience. Best wishes to both of you. My second family and parenthood has been the most rewarding thing in my life. I trust you will have the same experience. The first few months are a bit rough but they will be over before you know it.
Best wishes, Ken
July 31st, 2007 at 10:53 am
Hey Ken, thanks for writing. Great site you have there. Maybe after the baby comes along and I have a little time, I can get a post up on it.
BTW, are you still in the northern NM? Lisa and I are seriously considering a move to Albuquerque.
July 31st, 2007 at 1:31 pm
Hi Rich,
We are in Nambe, just north of Santa Fe. I love it here. The first things that come to mind are dry and hot in the summer- it really is the desert. I think it’s a beautiful place. Someone once told me that Albuquerque had the best climate in the world. I’m not sure all would agree but we do have all the seasons and winters are pretty mild, though summers are hot. Please let me know if you have any questions about Albuquerque. My mother and father in-law live there.
Ken
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